Coping with grief during the holidays

The holidays are upon us, and everyone is ready to make merry! But for some people who are suffering the loss of a loved one, the holidays can be anything but cheerful. We all have good intentions by inviting someone over to “cheer them up”, but this offer can be uncomfortable for everyone. So, what do we do?

Here are some tips if you are trying to offer someone comfort:

• Start by acknowledging that the person is suffering a loss. Make statements like “I know you are sad, but we would love to see you if you are feeling up to it” this allows someone to feel your love, but decline gracefully
• Surprise someone with some homemade goodies and a note “thinking of you”
• Tell them you are there if they need you

If you are grieving:

• Let people know in advance how you prefer to spend the holiday say something like “I just want to have a quiet holiday”. People will understand
•  Keep up family traditions, or start a new one
• Make a donation in your loved ones name
• Cook your loved ones favorite meal
• Ask for help if you need it
• Choose your favorite activity and do it! Go for a walk, hike, or bike ride
• Spend time with your pet. Remember animals grieve too, you can find comfort in each other.

Whatever you decide, be kind to yourself, and embrace you emotions.