What is companionship?
Synonymous with the words fellowship, togetherness, friendship, or closeness. “The state of being with someone or having someone you know, who likes to spend time with you”.
All of us, young or old, have the need to be with other people. Nothing illustrates the importance of social interactions more than the isolation anxiety that people felt during the pandemic. Generally speaking, we are at our “social peak” around the age of 20-30. At this time in our lives, we are engaged with more casual friends and acquaintances. We begin to plateau between ages of 30-45 when we are in a workplace environment and are engaging with colleagues. In our 50-60’s, our circle of friends begins to decline, because we have invested our time in more meaningful relationships. By the time we reach the ages of 70-80, many of us begin to experience the loss of significant relationships. A spouse or close friend may have passed away, adult children move away, grandchildren grow up and go away to college, or they become more involved in their own lives. None of this is uncommon, but it can be distressing and leave us feeling lonely.
Companionship for seniors is incredibly important. Studies show that companionship promotes better emotional, physical, and mental health. These benefits equate to a longer life expectancy, better quality of life, and a potential increase in cognitive abilities. Additionally, companionship can give you a purpose, increase self-esteem, reduce blood pressure, and promote a heathier lifestyle.
It is estimated that 14.7 million elderly citizens experience a lack of companionship (loneliness). The causes of loneliness can range from a long term illness that effects the ability to be independent or effects mobility; death of a spouse; lack of transportation; or a fear of leaving the house (a long term effect of the pandemic).
The long term effects of loneliness or social isolation include an increased risk of dementia (by 50%), depression, anxiety, lack of appetite, insomnia, and an increased risk of premature death. Yes, you can die of loneliness. Studies show that premature death from loneliness rivals that of smoking, obesity, heart disease, and physical inactivity. So what can we do?
Start by reaching out to resources within your community. Many local senior centers offer community meals, enrichment classes, movie nights, card nights, and trips to restaurants and local attractions. Some communities even offer transportation (taxi) vouchers for trips to the hairdresser (look good /feel good) or local stores. For those seniors that require a little more supervision, senior day care centers are an excellent option. They provide a safe environment, meals, guided activities, and companionship.
Another good idea is to try and learn some new technology. FaceTime and Zoom are very popular. It’s a nice way to stay connected, and to “see” a loved one on a regular basis, without actually having to be in the same room. Many local libraries offer free computer and smartphone classes.
Finally, and this one is my favorite, is to adopt a senior pet. There are many local animal rescue leagues that have older pets who are in need of a good home. It’s a wonderful way to give a “fellow senior” a good home, provide companionship, and get outside for a walk to meet your neighbors. Remember, physical activity is good for the body, mind, and soul.
If you have an elderly neighbor, check in with them from time to time. Stop by with a couple of muffins and some coffee. Please remember that even seniors living in nursing homes and assisted living communities need companionship. These facilities are overburdened due to the lack of staff and are not designed to provide one on one companionship. Remember not all seniors feel comfortable or have the cognitive ability to engage in the group activities offered within the facilities.